Today I am taking stock of my blog for a moment.
This will be a "stream of consciousness" post, so I apologize in advance if it rambles and is disjointed. It won't have any of my usual photos and images either. And it will probably be kinda long knowing me. But I am really into consciousness these days. Living in the now. Living in the present.
The present. A gift.
I started The Hugging Home a couple of months ago with no real preparation or expectations of what it would be, what it would become or really, any clear knowledge of why I was starting it at all. I just knew I had something to say, that I tend to express myself better through the written word than many other forms of communication and because I felt the need to connect. To connect with other adults...not children - as I do for many hours of every day at the moment.
I was inspired by reading blogs from time to time...by the way writers on the net were reaching out, being vulnerable, reaching people they would not otherwise reach through their musings. I love to write...I have since I can remember...and have recently started to make a little pocket change from doing some freelance work whilst on my third maternity leave.
Frankly, I wish I had had this idea when I was bedridden during my third trimester after a simple fall that turned out to be not so simple that left me with a broken foot, a nastily sprained other ankle and a very large unborn baby boy in my belly for the summer of 2010. Instead, I spent that summer watching reality TV, reading celebrity tabloids and drinking calorie-laden Tim Horton's iced caps like they were water. But I digress as I so often do...
So now, when I wish I could buy a minute to pee, or a vowel so that I could win some extra cash on a game show, or a tasty coffee drink that does not show up on my thighs or make me shake so I have trouble sleeping at night, I decide that starting a blog is a fantastic concept! Like I don't have a zillion and one other things I could, should, would be doing otherwise.
But hey, it is sure beats watching "Say Yes to the Dress" and reading about how the Kardashian sisters are not getting along but wow what big diamond engagement rings they have. Except for the one with the long-time boyfriend who is a jerk and has a baby boy. How do they stay in shape by the way? Perhaps they have found that coffee drink I have been searching for. (Note to self: buy the latest celebrity tabloid to get an update!) Yes...I digress once again... (and yes...I did warn you...)
I started by reading up on how to start a blog. I had no frickin idea. I quickly learned that there is a LOT of information on the web about how one should and should not do this. One minute things seemed to get clearer and the next I felt totally overwhelmed by all the possibilities. Not being one who likes to half-ass things, I wanted to read it all! So I tried. And I failed. Because I would still be reading instead of blogging.
So I said to myself "OK Lora...you just have to get started and go from there." Never mind all the ways to get search engine optimization and install the perfect keywords and find the perfect topic to write about and make it look awesome and write the perfect posts and gain readers by the thousands and get people to leave comments and get people to like me... oh please like me! I just decided to come up with a name that embodied as best I could what I wanted to talk about (and what was that exactly???) and start my first post.
And so The Hugging Home was born. What am I passionate about? What would I write about? What would keep me interested enough? What would I be able to have enough content for that I wouldn't be stuck without anything new to say after a few weeks? How do I blog my way to bliss?
Well...I am a mom. I have three young boys. But "mommy blogs" are a dime a dozen. Make that a penny a dozen. There are so many mommy blogs out in blog world that I thought I would get totally lost in the shuffle. Did that matter? What else?
Well, I am really passionate about personal growth and development...topics such as living in the moment, finding true happiness and fulfillment, staying sane in an insane world. OK. Cool. Also lots of blogs about these things. Tons. What else?
Well, I love interior design and decor. I truly believe that making one's house a home...one that fits one's lifestyle and personal aesthetic, that represents the people that live there...is important. I try to do this. I love to try to do this. But yes...lots of blogs about decorating. Great. That's awesome. What else?
I like to take pictures. Especially of my kids. OK...I'll post some of those. But what does that have to do with anything really? Who cares about pictures of my kids except me, my friends and my family? Will anyone else be reading my blog anyways? Maybe not! OK...so that's an idea.
I love to be creative. I have to be creative. That is part of the reason I started this blog. I need to express and be productive. Snap! I like to write in different formats, but I also like to paint, to sing, to act, to dance, to make music, to make things both concrete and abstract, things you can hold, things you can see, things you can smell, things you can feel. Yeah...things you can feel. I want to make people feel something. I want to make people think. To ponder. To consider. To stop and take a moment. OK. We are on to something! Or are we? Am I?
I decided that finding my niche was futile and that perhaps my niche would find me. I knew that I wanted to create a place where everyone would feel welcome. I didn't care who. I wanted my readers...even if there were only a few...to feel at home. Kind of like getting a hug. Home. Hug. Hey! They both start with the letter "H'. That's nifty! The Hugging Home. Things that make ya go "Hmmmmmmmmm". (Hey...we are on an "H" roll Here...there I go again!)
OK. The Hugging Home. Sounds good. Sounds welcoming and cozy. Embodies that feeling I want to convey. Embodies the things I am passionate about...family...my kids, being a mother, decorating, self-love and care, la la la. Cool. The Hugging Home it is. As long as the URL was available. And it was. Yay!
And here I am now. I have written about being a mom, boys, the multitude of addictions that get in the way of living the ultimate life, feeling guilty, all the things I have to get done, creating a cozy home, my art, my poetry, my neurotic tendencies, my life in a little more than a nutshell. Maybe I am just nuts? I have written about the importance of gratitude and being present. These keep popping up everywhere. A common theme perhaps? Is my niche starting to find me in this game of blogging "hide and go seek"? Perhaps. Cool.
Stay tuned. And in the meantime, please share your thoughts. Please let me know what you think thus far. Is this blog resonating with anyone? Is is making any sense what so ever? Or is it a jumbled mess? I mean, I know this particular post is a jumbled mess...but I mean the blog as a whole? Have I made you ponder? Think a little? Look at life a little differently?
Does it matter? Yeah...I have found out that I think it does. To me.
Please leave your comments below and let me know who is stopping by. Because I realize that I do care. I am not just writing this for me. For my friends. For my family. I am writing this for you as well.
But I digress...
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