"Be not ashamed of mistakes and thus make them crimes".
I have a very heavy guilty conscious. I feel guilty a great deal of the time for one reason or another.
And guilt is heavy.
|This weighs a ton!|
My biggest source of guilt stems from my role as a mother. I wrote about "Mother Guilt" in an early post.
But this post is not so much about guilt as it is about making mistakes.
You see, I don't like making mistakes.
I rather like wearing the mask of the "perfect" mother and the "perfect" wife and the "perfect" employee, la la la.
And it is just that - a mask (or maybe a cape!)
I am not perfect. I am a perfectionist in many ways...but I am not perfect.
Like any human being, I make a ton of mistakes. Some little ones...and some bigger ones.
And that is where that guilt I was talking about comes in to play.
When I make a mistake, I generally feel guilty about it.
And what I need to learn how to do more effectively is to stop the bullshit catastrophizing and shake it off!
Shake the mistake!
|No, not Shake 'n Bake!|
I need to let things roll off my back!
|No, not roll up the rim!|
|Shake the mistake|
...and my booty until the (KC and the) sunshine (band) comes out!
OK. In all seriousness, I really hafta accept myself as a human being who can't predict the future and is gonna screw up once in a while.
|Hindsight is 20/20|
And I don't like to live constantly reminding myself about regrets.
That is no way to live.
Whatever has happened in my life up the this point has gotten me to where I am today. The little mistakes and the bigger ones.
Mistakes help us grow.
Mistakes help us learn.
If you never make a mistake...than really, you have not really tried anything new have you?
I could just sit here and do the same thing, over and over and over again because it is comfortable...or...I can have the courage to keep challenging myself.
And when one challenges oneself, one is bound to slip and fall along the way.
And when you slip and fall...it is really how you react to it that matters, right?
You can sit there and decide that since you made a mistake...and you are bruised and hurt...you are not gonna get up again and keep trying.
Or...you can get your ass up, brush yourself off, and keep trying. Keep going.
Everyone makes mistakes.
Maybe you need to go in a different direction.
Maybe you need to do a little more research.
But to just sit there and wallow in whatever went wrong...well you will be sitting there for a very long time.
Doing not much of anything...and going no where fast.
And you will be sitting perfectly.