Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Finding Words

"Writing about a writer's block is better than not writing at all."
 - Charles Bukowski 
(The Last Night of the Earth Poems)

I am at a loss for words.

I know, right?


Dudes! I am as dumbfounded as you are!

At. A. Loss. For. Words.

A rarity, I realize.

And I am trying to figure out why.

I mean...I kinda figured that a several-months-long blogging hiatus coupled with a lot of major changes in my personal life would be fodder for a veritable explosion of bloggitude!

This is what an explosion of bloggitude looks like.
In case you were wondering.
And I know you were.
You're welcome.

And all I seem to be coming up with...are words like "bloggitude" that don't even exist.

Not good.

Perhaps I am in shock.

Maybe I need more time.

I could be so overwhelmed by everything that is in my head that it has rendered me frozen.

But the thing is...I know it's in there.

I can feel the need to get stuff share...

To write!

I guess...I just don't know where the frick to start.

Where does one start when life as one knows it completely changes in so many ways?

I mean...if this blog is my story...then lemme tell ya peeps...this here...this is definitely the beginning of a new chapter.

In fact, I even pondered the idea of putting The Hugging Home to bed and starting something new.

But then I stopped to ponder that idea further.

And the it hit me.

Life is about change.

Shit happens.

Doors open.

Ya fall down, ya gotta pick yourself up.

Rebuild. Redefine. Reinvent.

Time to rebuild!

In story is not finished yet.

I may be in a different home...but it is still one full of hugs and love and all the things that are true and dear in my heart of hearts.

This is still The Hugging Home.

My family is not broken. It has simply (or not so simply) taken on a new form.

My husband - from whom I am now legally separated - is no longer my life partner - but he is still an important part of my life and always will be.

He is the father of my three, beautiful boys and we are learning by trial and error how to be successful co-parents and friends. As every couple who goes through the un-coupling process knows - especially when the partnership has been a long one (ours was 17 years) and involves children - it is about stumbling and tripping and figuring things out as you go along.

But I digress.

Because apparently I just stumbled - hem hem - upon a topic that would make a pretty good post all on it's own. In could probably be split into several. So I will leave it at that for now and make a mental note to continue on the topic later.

Ha! I'm coming back!

You see...I just decided to do what I have always done when mental block hits: JUST START WRITING.

And so I did.



Tuesday, October 08, 2013

I'm Back!!! (Did Ya Miss Me?)

“There are as many worlds as there are kinds of days, and as an opal changes its colors and its fire to match the nature of a day, so do I.” 
 - John Steinbeck

So here I am again.

To my loyal readers who don’t know me personally – perhaps you thought I had dropped off the face of the earth.

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And I am sorry that you have been so worried.

Please cancel the police searches, the sign campaigns, he talk show blitzes.

Nope. Not in there dudes.

Indeed…I did – so to speak – come pretty close to the edge of the earth…and at times I felt like jumping…but no.

I’m still here.

See? Hello again!

But it has been one hell of a frickin’ looooooooooooooooooooong summer peeps.

I will get in to it in some (but not specific) detail in an upcoming post…but for now, I will tell you the following:

  1.       I have a new domain name. Frick. This pisses me off. But my credit card expired and the company that hosts my domain tried and tried and tried to tell me to update my info so that I could renew it (…but I was too busy dealing with the other reason why my blog took a hike for the summer….and so I lost it. Because someone else bought it. And then tried to sell it to me for $1000.00. I know. Frick that.

  1. 2    So my NEW domain name is Yes….. .CA! For all of my non-Canadian followers, that stands for Canada. Because I am Canadian. Makes sense eh? Please take a moment now to update this in your favourites. My blog IS in your favourites…right? (And by the way, us Canadians spell favourite with a “u” – so please don’t write me of as a dumb blonde. I have my moments…but this is not one of them.)

I'm back. You can relax.
Right on eh?
  1. 3    I will put this one plainly. This summer, my husband and I (after a great deal of soul-searching and time) mutually decided to part ways. I won’t (and won’t in the future) get into the tiny details…I don’t believe that is for public consumption…but I will say that there were no third parties involved, we continue to put our children first and are committed to being successful co-parents. We are both good people and good parents…we just are not the best partners for each other. So yeah. I’m separated. And I share custody of my three boys 50/50. Not “the hugging home” I had planned for…but still one none the less.

As long as these guys are around, hugs will always rule!
So there you have it.

I have lots floating around in my noggin that I know I need to write about.

Thanks for waiting and for coming back for a visit.

The welcome mat is back out.


Come on in, grab a seat and have a coffee.

Stay a while.

I appreciate the company.